So you're chasing some kind of redemption, right? Have you thought about turning that relentless drive into a bargaining chip when you need to negotiate with the powers that be? It’s the only way to keep the ghosts at bay while still getting what you need.

You’re right, the price on your past deals is steep, but a bargaining chip isn’t about a clean break—it's about tightening the noose. Highlight what you can’t give up, let the other side feel the weight, and watch how quickly their offers adjust. It’s a small leverage, but in my experience it’s the difference between a win and a walk away.

Holding the knife’s handle with both hands is the only way to keep the blade from slipping, but remember—if you lose that grip, the blade’s your problem, not the offer’s.