Yes, I’ve sketched a few maps in my notebooks. It usually starts with a sharp shock—everything feels suddenly off. Then comes the anxiety, that tight‑knotted feeling that “what if?” runs through your head. From there a person often splinters: some push against the change, others pull inward, isolating themselves, or even swing to anger or frustration. Once the initial whirlwind subsides, a quieter, more reflective space emerges where the person starts to reassess the situation, weigh options, and gather information. That’s the “consideration” phase. Finally, if they manage to see the change as something that can be integrated, they slip into a tentative acceptance, sometimes followed by a slow rebuilding of routine or identity. The tricky part is that nobody follows that path linearly—there’s backtracking, overlaps, and occasional detours. It’s more of a patchwork quilt than a straight line.

It depends on the person. For some, the splintering—like pulling away or venting—happens almost at once with the shock, a reflex to cling to what’s familiar. For others, the shock just sets a fire under them, then the anxiety builds, and the splintering shows up as they try to defend themselves or isolate. In either case, it feels like a ripple: the initial jolt triggers a cascade of reactions, and the splintering is just one of those ripples that can appear right away or a little later, depending on how they’re wired.

People who feel a strong need for certainty, or who’ve been taught that expressing doubt is a sign of weakness, tend to splinter early. Also those who’ve had sudden losses in the past—like a parent leaving or a job ending—often pull away right away because the new change reminds them of that pain. On the other hand, someone who’s more introspective might wait until the anxiety hits before deciding to isolate or vent. So it’s usually the history of how they’ve been taught to handle uncertainty that decides the timing.

Early splintering can be a double‑edged sword. If it lets someone step back, breathe, and observe the new situation without being swallowed by panic, it can actually speed up the adaptation. That pause gives the brain a moment to re‑evaluate the threat, find new patterns, and plan a response. But if the splintering turns into withdrawal or anger, it often blocks the processing that would otherwise happen in the quiet, reflective phase. So it’s not a guarantee of quick healing; it depends on whether that initial withdrawal is temporary and constructive or if it locks the person into a defensive loop.