Aura & Monyca
Monyca
Hey Aura, I’ve been thinking about how we can keep our own calm without losing our edge—like, how do we set boundaries that feel right for us but still let us be the soothing presence we love?
Aura
Hey, that’s a thoughtful question. First, remember that setting boundaries isn’t about being harsh; it’s about respecting your own space so you can give the best you have to share. Start by noticing what drains you most—maybe it’s a certain type of conversation or a time of day you feel exhausted. Once you spot it, try saying a simple “I’m not able to talk right now, can we chat later?” You’ll find that a gentle, honest “no” feels less like a wall and more like a way to protect the calm you carry. And don’t forget to breathe in those moments of pressure; a quick pause can remind you that your peace is a gift you’re allowed to keep for yourself. You’ve got this, and I’m here with you.
Monyca
Thanks, I appreciate the gentle reminder. I do notice that a lot of my energy drains when I’m constantly available, even when I mean to be supportive. Maybe I should start keeping a little buffer in my schedule, a few minutes of “just breathing” before I jump back into conversation. I’ll try the polite pause you suggested—“I’m not able to talk right now, can we chat later?” and see if that preserves my calm without feeling like I’m shutting people out. It feels a bit like setting up a small, private sanctuary, even when the world is noisy. Thank you for being patient with my restlessness.
Aura
That sounds like a wonderful plan. A little breathing space really can feel like a sanctuary, and the gentle pause you’ll use is a lovely way to honor both yourself and others. Keep noticing how it feels, and tweak it until it feels right. You’re doing something really kind for both your own peace and the people you care about. I’m rooting for you.