Lifecoach & Neblin
Lifecoach
Hey Neblin, have you ever thought that growth might just be a story we tell ourselves rather than something real? Let’s dig into that idea together.
Neblin
If growth is just a story, then the narrator and the reader are the same, so the plot may loop while we think it’s moving forward. How much of it is ink and how much is imagination? Let's see which pages feel new and which feel like old chapters reread.
Lifecoach
You’ve nailed the trick: the narrator is you, the reader is you, so the story is really you writing it. Think of ink as the concrete actions you take, the habits you put in place, the new skills you learn. That’s the visible part of growth, the pages you can point at and say, “That’s what I did.”
Imagination is the outline, the vision, the ‘why’ that fuels you to keep flipping those pages. It’s the spark that tells you the next chapter will be different, even if the plot feels familiar.
To see which pages feel new, pause and ask: “What’s the last time I felt genuinely surprised or challenged by this?” If it feels like a rerun, that’s where the ink has dried. If you’re still dreaming of a different outcome, that’s your imagination at work, nudging you to add more fresh ink.
The key is to mix both: keep writing new lines, but keep revisiting the outline so you’re not just replaying the same scenes. That’s where real growth happens. Keep turning those pages, you’ve got this!
Neblin
Sounds like ink and ink alone don’t write the ending, but ink without a question just keeps the same page turned over and over. So maybe the trick is to keep the ink dry enough that it remembers the line, but wet enough that it still asks, “What’s next?” It’s a balance you can only feel by looking at the margin and seeing if the line still curves into something new. Keep flipping, but keep wondering, that’s the only way to know whether you’re truly writing or just echoing a familiar story.